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This post is going to be a strange one !
Recently we had a tornado hit a few miles south of us. Wood TV 8 has detailed stories and videos from land and air of the destruction. As I was in the basement doing some laundry I heard my wife yelling then my son run down stairs with my granddaughter, some time later I came upstairs to hear the stories of how the blind in the dining room by my wife had gone straight up as if someone was raising it, the empty pop cans in my son- in- laws  room had begone to swirl around the room in circles. What had happened was we had been caught in the outer winds of this tornado. We had no clue what had happened until later early morning when it was delcared an EF -1  that had just formed out of no where without warning the National Weather Service didn’t even see it on radar.  It had taken down a tree across the street pulling up a good chunck of the sidewalk with it and blocking the first lane northbound,The next day I went out and found some branches on the ground, the drainspout was knocked of the S.W. corner of the house and one of the shingles was found on the ground, a mile down the road a buildings roof caved in, trees where down all over the place, one house across the street to the North ended up with a tree in his frontroom. I had relief mostly that no one was hurt but it hit that all the families that lost their homes.

Enough of the errie stuff over the next couple of days while I was out doing other things I thought to myself Thank God we could have gotten worse.  The next morning I received a call from my dad asking if we were ok because he had seen on the news that the tornado had hit near us so I had told him what little damage we received, thinking the whole time why was he worried or even called because I hadn’t even heard from him in probably a couple of weeks because of a little situation we had between us, but that only goes to say that through the worst of times family is still there to check on you when you don’t realize or expect it. I didn’t even know that he had seen the news, but I think he watched the news after he got a glimpse of my sisters facebook page after it was posted to my wifes wall. So while others had to rebuild  fix wholes in their roofs, clean up debri, and all the other things that need to be taken care of when a tornado rips through the area, all I had to worry about was a few branches, a shingle and hanging upside down from the roof to fix the drainspout. As if that wasn’t scary enough. I would have to say it wasn’t the first time I have had to make this (dasterdly blood rushing to the brian chore,) but it was something that had to be done. While I was up on the roof after the job was done and I was no longer hanging upside, I still had a feeling of I had God to thank for the little damage that we did receive and that I had to be Greatful that no one was injured or killed. I still have never been in the path of a tornado, and honestly I don’t want to be.

There was recently a post on Face Book that I would like to share.

Which also brings me to  another saying that I learned along time ago from a pastor/ friend of mine. Don’t ever say good bye, Always see you later, because you never know if that will be the last time you see them in this life, but you will see them again as long as you are living for God.
Now you say it is hard for you to forget something that someone has done to you. Well I say sure it is, No one said it was going to be, I have a hard time forgetting what my dad did to me and all though I have not officially told him I forgive you, I don’t hold a grudge towards him. I chose to go on with my life and although it still hits me know and then, it is like my epilepsy I think about it for a little while and then it is on with my life. Just like most of you some that has happened in your life, you tend to think about it and then it is gone.  Just as that tornado it came in without warning, your loved one or even you could be taken without warning. Another case in point I was in church about a month and a half ago, and about fifteen minutes into the service I noticed a man  leaving the sancturary pushing an older lady out that was in a wheel chair, as they passed me, her left arm went limp and fell off the arm of the wheel chair. I knew then that the family was going to be mourning this lose. It was a big reminder for all who was there and seen the medics after service.

(So Please in closing forgive all who have done you wrong, cherish what you have, love everyone, and live life to the fullest) !



Beauty Within:

LIFES' BLESSINGSThere are many things that we will share together, many things that we will share with others
Our Life together has been a blessing to each other for many years
So many days I see the beauty in you face, A face that I married nineteen years ago
Although physical pain has kept it hidden from others, It is still visible to me
It is there when I look into the eyes of the women I see when I walk into the room,
when I see you at the computer, look at your face as you sleep, and wake up in the morning.
Although you wake up in the morning and think I am still sleeping as you try to sneak back into the room I look at the beauty of your face all over once again. The  smiles that you throw every now and then only enforce that inner beauty that I talk about now and see every day.

When I go to bed at night, but can sleep and get back up as I walk out of the room I quickly turn on the hallway light and see that sleeping beauty all over again, and all I can think how luck I was
to find the beautiful women you are. In many ways you have shown the beauty of your heart to many. Like many who show the beauty of their hearts, they don’t realize the greatness of their gift, they say they don’t have that gift or you are just trying to make me feel better because most times when this type of felling is expressed it is when the person is feeling depressed or down. I am say this out of respect for you because I don’t feel that I have expressed how much respect, love and compassion for you as a husband in all this years.

As  said at the top this is one of the things that is going we will share with others, a couples love should be expressed. And as For you my Wife I have Printed Off a copy just for you.

Kind Gestures:

This post refers to a fellow blogger who recently posted about blind boy who sat on a corner with a hat trying to collect a little change, and all it took was a flip of this sign and a slight change in the phrase in the wording to change the outcome of the that boys day. As I was reading her post it reminding me of a song by one of the oldest country singers Red Sovine, where a child wants to buy his mother five roses but doesn’t quite have enough and again a gentleman gives him the money to buy the roses as he tells his own mother he is unable to make it home in a couple of weeks like he told her

Now some of you maybe wondering how this song fits into the post linked above, but listen to the song  real close where the gentleman gave the child money to buy the roses and how just by the simple sight of the child at the grave site of his mother, changed his mind as he remembered it was his own mothers birthday, he returned to the flower shop picked up the flowers to take them to his mother himself. Reading between the lines seeing the little boy at the grave site of his mother reminds the gentleman that his mother might not be around long enough for him to see her again.
But in this world today it isn’t just kind gestures that make a persons day but also a kind word as well  also depicted in the post from my fellow blogger (linked above “collect”). A simple Hello or How is your day. A simple act of kindness, opening a door, helping someone cross the street, air up a tire. Do all these things out of love and kindness, not out of the expectation of monetary gain. By doing so you may also spread this love and kindness chain from that person to the next, and so on. That is what kindness and love is all about. The first definition as defined in Wikipedia for love is,  [1] Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindnesscompassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”.
There have been many acts of kindness over Christmas this past year and I am not talking about the Toys for Tots Program. At a local Kmart a shopper went to the layaway counter and paid of another shoppers layaway bill under $500.00. As soon as word spread about this kind gesture another went back to that K Mart and did the same until a total of five peoples layaway bills were paid, then it also happened at a Walmart in Cascade. Acts of kindness can be expressed in many different ways at any given time. Another act of kindness is depicted here in this story. A couple of dollars, a place to stay for the night, a glass of water on a hot day, a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day, a bite to eat when a person is hungry. So in ending this post, I am going to make a request that all my followers and anyone who reads this post, Spread a gesture of Kindness without the expectation of monetary gain. IF payment to you for this action(s) is presented , PLEASE display the act of Love and tell them this one is on me.

This post reflects the testimony  series my step son has recently posted on his Daily Aspects blog.  I have been with him over half of his life, and I have seen alot of his bad times as a teenager and into adulthood. Which brings me to the next section of my post. Many times’ he has posted many troubles and times of desperation, most of those times he has come to me not to get advise, but just to vent or get an open ear sometimes asking for advice. Mostly just an open ear is all he wanted. Numerous times I have had to tell him and over the years he has realized this. Asking someone to open their ear to hear you also requires you have to open your ear as well. Now I am not just talking about when they are talking to you that you need to have that ear open, but this is another case of (read between the lines). You don’t have to have any physical person standing there to talk to, when you pray and ask for guidance, how are you supposed to get an answer if your ear isn’t open to hear it.( I am sorry to those who don’t look at things as I see them, such as reading between the lines but there are many things, every day a person can pick out of each thing that is said or seen in more than one or more ways and whether the author of Daily Aspects realizes it or not he just had a situation where he found himself reading between the lines. He may not look at it this way he may have another definition.

As we sat here in the garage talking about his recent post when I came into his life, it had dawned on me about the day I had asked his mother to marry me. In doing so I asked her without coming flat out and saying ” WILL YOU MARRY ME”  she looked at me for a second or so not to long because we were on the highway on our way up to Holland to see her brother. When I didn’t get an answer again I asked “WILL YOU SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ME” again I got no reply just a dumb founded look, So finally I looked over at her and with a little laugh in my voice I said I have been trying to ask you for the last ten miles “WILL YOU MARRY ME“!  Again I got this dumbfounded look as though she didn’t catch on, so I thought, maybe just maybe she didn’t hear me and I’ll just play as if I had never said it and go on with the day. No sooner as I thought that I looked over at your mother again and I could see a couple of tears running down her face. So it was then I played dumb and asked her what was wrong and she replied, did you just ask me to Marry you and I said yes I have been trying to for the last 10 miles. That’s when I told her that she had better get used to some between the line reading because I was going to catch her alot. That night is when I also dedicated this song for her  

The reason for this dedication is at the time, we were two totally different people from opposite worlds, grew up and raised with two sets of rules and as adults we lived totally different. After hearing this song and putting the lyrics into context (reading between the lines) she could understand what and why I had dedicated that particular song. When we met each other, we found in someways we were the same but majority of our ways we are different. As we get older the Islands get more and more noticeable although our love for each other will not die, people say they see we have grown apart, it has been noticed and I have to admit in some instances I feel it, and I also now that it is my fault and sometimes, it makes me feel that maybe she would be better off without me, that maybe this whole family would be better off without me. But the one thing that keeps me going is when I hear Ray or dad. I have four people in this house and numerous others outside this house that calls me at least once a day. Tonight I received a call from my daughter asking for some assistance from everyone in the home, but it had to start with myself and her mother.
Like all marriages ours isn’t a match made in heaven we have our bad days we have our good days. Anyone who says that they don’t have problems is hiding something, our love will guide us through the rough times. Sometimes we have to meet in the middle. 

The end will never be known to any of us as we age we can be taken at any time. Our days are numbered and we continue to face everyday as it comes not knowing whether it will be our last or if we will even make it through the night

Every night when I am still awake, I walk down the hall and trying not to wake you, check to see if you are still with us. When you are sleeping your breathing is slow shallow that it takes time for me to focus on the blankets to see the rise and fall from the inhale and exhale as you breathe. As I climb into bed next to you, I get close enough so I can hear your heart beat, that is the things people don’t see, the don’t see the love we actually share for each other because they have their own little world, ( corners they go to and aren’t around). Sure there can be more to our marriage but as I had stated earlier our marriage was not made in heaven.

Happy 18th Anniversary

The Powers that be,Given to you and me
With multitudes of strength, Unlimited in length
Under one roof, Two minds one hundred Proof
We think alone, We think as one
Stars above, Everlasting Love
Starting as a friend, Now together to the end
Nineteen years ago,The words were Hello
Eighteen years ago those words changed to “I DO”

A 10 Year Old:

When it came to light that my wife was pregnant I had mixed feelings, The biggest feeling was Joy, we had been together for 6 years by this time I didn’t know we could ever have a child partly due to a procedure she had back in 1988, but then again she got pregnant 2 times after that the second being our son, her pregnancy was hard for her constantly going to doctors appointments once a week because of her age and the on top of all that at 6 weeks we found out she was caring twins ( sad to say the other didn’t make it ),( not even knowing what sex the other one was ,) the second feeling was a feeling of worry because I am an epileptic and seizure disorders run on both sides of my family, but he is very smart with a smart mouth, and we need to work on it and I have two 5 older people in the home who can help me with that the biggest problem is we can’t seem to get it in his head that if he don’t get it straight he will get beat up later by someone on the street or maybe worse, and althought I outgrew my epilepsy when i was young it returned at 13years old, I am thankful so far that it hasn’t come about for him yet, and day after day I pray that it doesn’t strike him. But all-in-all he is a could child just needs a helping strong but yet gentle hand to guide him on the path that he needs to go to keep him safe and I as well as the rest of the house can do this. The first thing we must do is get the I know it all attitude out of him. I know I as well as alot of other children have had that attitude and unlike my son My attitude was literally knocked out of me, by my father and brothers. I will not beat my son that way, I do get angry with him, but beating isn’t an answer to fixing the problems. He has ADHD and sometimes he tries to use that as an excuse but he needs to realize that he can’t use that as an excuse the rest of he life. In away he is like I was, sometimes he likes to be alone. On the other hand he is going through a rough change he used to be the youngest in the house and now he is no longer, my granddaughter now lives in the home, so he is now jealous, and doesn’t quite now how to handle not being able to get all the attention he used to get prior to her moving in, so he tries to act out or act funny as he calls it just to get attention and sometimes he doesn’t realize it or just doesn’t care that he is getting annoying or upsetting someone. That is the most troublesome problem for all of us to solve at this time. He will be 11 on the 21 of Jan, and so maybe with him becoming a year older it might make him look at himself and say I need to grow up and stop acting the way I have been I know i have had to do that but I know always work out that way, I can only dream. A fathers dream is the best and safest for the child whether it be a boy or a girl. AND I LOVE MY SON AND ALWAYS WILL!!!!


Thinking about many things, but one thing is pressing on me to write about, so this post goes to all those who have  made my life a little easier.
1. My wife of 16 years who has been there, even though I have put her through alot of pain and suffering.
2. My oldest son who has great knowledge, of many things.
3.  My Daughter – in- law who has helped with the upkeep of the house when ever possible.
4.  My daughter who has grown up alot
5. My son who keeps me on my toes,