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Loved, Lost, But not Forgotten

Many people loose at least one person that they cherished so mush that they wish they were still here, could come back, wished they were dead so they could see them again or wished they had gone first so they didn’t have to be left here without the one they had lost. I am reminded of this on numerous occasions not because I have lost someone that close to me yet, but when a family member or friend does die I can see the pain and heartache in those left behind. Today I can still see it in my fathers eyes every now and then when my step mothers name is mentioned, My wife name when her fathers name is mentioned, last week we recently lost a cousin on my fathers side the only people that showed any pain were his children and wife of thirty four years. Now every one shows pain differently, such as myself. I have been through so much pain as I child I don’t cry that much, and if I do it hasn’t been over the death of a family member.Believe me with a big family like mine there have been many people pass over the years, some could call me and have called me cold blooded, but what could I say their is alot.
My life was changed in many ways when I got married to my wife Pam, with an already made family, (which let me say didn’t matter I was used to that)  being raised in a home with four step sisters and one step brother. Now the death of my wife and my children blood, step, inlaws, that’s a different story  I still don’t show alot of emotion, sometimes I hold it in, sometimes it isn’t worth it because I wasn’t close enough to the person or the pain to bad to relive it. However the lose of a mother or Father even though the pain and heartache I went through when I was younger from both of them I would cry.
Then again who know I might even be gone before any of them are.
The voice also say alot when a person is pain at the lose of a close family member, point in case below is a link from an adopted niece Bianca H. Morrow who wrote this song for her grandmother who passed away. Keep your ears tuned to the lyrics, and you’ll be able to read between the lines to feel the pain I am talking about.


Kind Gestures:

This post refers to a fellow blogger who recently posted about blind boy who sat on a corner with a hat trying to collect a little change, and all it took was a flip of this sign and a slight change in the phrase in the wording to change the outcome of the that boys day. As I was reading her post it reminding me of a song by one of the oldest country singers Red Sovine, where a child wants to buy his mother five roses but doesn’t quite have enough and again a gentleman gives him the money to buy the roses as he tells his own mother he is unable to make it home in a couple of weeks like he told her

Now some of you maybe wondering how this song fits into the post linked above, but listen to the song  real close where the gentleman gave the child money to buy the roses and how just by the simple sight of the child at the grave site of his mother, changed his mind as he remembered it was his own mothers birthday, he returned to the flower shop picked up the flowers to take them to his mother himself. Reading between the lines seeing the little boy at the grave site of his mother reminds the gentleman that his mother might not be around long enough for him to see her again.
But in this world today it isn’t just kind gestures that make a persons day but also a kind word as well  also depicted in the post from my fellow blogger (linked above “collect”). A simple Hello or How is your day. A simple act of kindness, opening a door, helping someone cross the street, air up a tire. Do all these things out of love and kindness, not out of the expectation of monetary gain. By doing so you may also spread this love and kindness chain from that person to the next, and so on. That is what kindness and love is all about. The first definition as defined in Wikipedia for love is,  [1] Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindnesscompassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”.
There have been many acts of kindness over Christmas this past year and I am not talking about the Toys for Tots Program. At a local Kmart a shopper went to the layaway counter and paid of another shoppers layaway bill under $500.00. As soon as word spread about this kind gesture another went back to that K Mart and did the same until a total of five peoples layaway bills were paid, then it also happened at a Walmart in Cascade. Acts of kindness can be expressed in many different ways at any given time. Another act of kindness is depicted here in this story. A couple of dollars, a place to stay for the night, a glass of water on a hot day, a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day, a bite to eat when a person is hungry. So in ending this post, I am going to make a request that all my followers and anyone who reads this post, Spread a gesture of Kindness without the expectation of monetary gain. IF payment to you for this action(s) is presented , PLEASE display the act of Love and tell them this one is on me.