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Marriage:

Many times it is easy to have or to atleast say that you have a great marriage, no problems, ect. Most times it isn’t the case, Problems arise from the lie ( there are no problems ). People need to confess their faults. Be truthful, with their spouses and family and friends. The trust of these people all depend on the honesty from all.

Ex. Recently I had a secret I was hiding from my wife ( no it wasn’t infidelity )  this was going on for about three months. But the point is when I finally told her it was a big surprise to her and a blow to her, however telling her was a big weight off me. Sure she mixed feelings, she didn’t like the situation, but she was thankful for the honesty. I know she thinks about it.
Being honest will help in many ways, and if every one stops to think about the first part of this line you can come up with the many ways themselves.

With marriage that is sometimes the hardest thing to do, first your relationship starts as a friendship and if honesty isn’t in the relationship one hundred percent before the wedding and the other finds out, is there going to be a wedding second if there is a wedding is there going to be a divorce because the dishonesty, if a person is  because the first thing people intend to look at the divorce card or worse (especially in these days). However with mine, I have failed my wife so many times so could have very easily found a legit reason to leave. and we have been married for 20 years as of  5-13, but we have been able to keep are marriage together,

This principal also goes for friends, a person is only going to call you friend as long as you are honest with them.  Yes a move in residence may happen on either side but if a friendship does not end on a good note, there wont be the ability to communicate after the move is done won’t be there.
This friendship may resurface later down the road but there will be alot of trust rebuilding and sometimes the slightest mistake could end it all over again, usually never to resurface.
Another situation which also included my wife at our 20th anniversary was a relationship breaker between my father and I, when I didn’t receive an invite,  he found out when I posted pictures I received a call from him the last word he said to me was Goodbye and hung up.
Fathers Day morning I posted Happy Fathers Day to all fathers including my father who is upset with me at the present time. The next morning I received a call from him with a Happy Fathers’ Day in turn I said Happy Fathers Day to him, he proceeded to tell me it was a joke, later he says well how would you feel if your son didn’t invite you. My response to that was “Apparently there was a reason for it” his response was ” I’ll call you later he still hasn’t. “Oh well”  There in lies the problem when you say you going to do some do it or don’t say you will, if you did something be honest and say you did.  That is something my dad was always trying to tell me. but like some kids it takes adult hood to get it through their thick head. Then they look back and say mom and/or dad was right. Sometimes it takes loosing someone.

In closing please follow the advise of everyone that has told you,  Be honest  “Honesty is the best Policy “

Time to play ball:

This post is going to take place on the field and the reason why I am playing ball is because alot of people are looking for answers to everyday problems from within themselves, like Why am I hurting people the way I do? I for one ask my self a why couldn’t I have done more with my life . One of the questions that I haven’t asked anyone. And my son the author will say to me look at it from the bleachers. Now lets start batting. I am thrown a (fast ball), for instance the abuse from my father which now has on impact on how I am with my family now. With that being said no I don’t abuse my child, the way my father did me but I am quick to anger and he can see that because he sees it from bleachers, and now for the one thing no one likes to here the Umpire (STRIKE). You look up throw that bat walk away with anger and ask your self how come I struck out. And then you look at yourself and ask again, not realizing that your son heard this time, he says to you, you tried to hard or your mind wasn’t with the game. Neither one of those answers are ones a batter wants to here. In my case my son looks at me and says your anger has got such a hold on you that you don’t realize it, and can’t see how strong that hold is. Neither answer I didn’t want to hear either, but in both cases as a batter or myself if the batter and myself looked at the answers hard enough we would find that the truth was their in that answer. The second question that only we could answer is, was it because we were so blinded that we couldn’t see the answer, or was it because we were to proud, again neither answer will be liked. I for one have seen it in both aspects yes I have been so blinded by somethings that I couldn’t see the answer and there have been times (as much as I hate to admit) my ego has gotten in the way, and as for many they don’t want to admit that the won’t let their ego get in the way of things, well I thought that same things, what a joke. Some people are ashamed to admit when their ego has gotten the best of them, but a little warning to all who feel this way, YOUR EGO can be disastrous to not only your relationships but your health as well.